Robert J. Rubel, Ph.D. (Dr. Bob), author, educator and photographer is an educational sociologist and researcher by training. He currently has eleven books in print and two DVDs (Books: five on Master/slave topics, two on advanced sex techniques, one on fire play, and three erotic art photo books. Additionally, he has produced two educational DVDs: one on fire play and one on beginning impact play).
Dr. Bob is the Series Editor of Power Exchange Books’ Resource Series (the successor to Power Exchange Magazine). This is a series of books that are collections of highly focused essays that cover a wide range of special topics within the larger field of BDSM.
Recipient of the 2008 Pantheon of Leather’s Community Choice Award (man), Dr. Bob has been involved in the BDSM and total power exchange (TPE) scene since the summer of 2001, throwing himself into the literature of the field as though it were an academic study. He presents, judges, and sells his books at weekend kink conferences throughout the year.
As it turns out, you can break down a “scene” from beginning to end in five distinct stages. The “scene” itself is stage three. Let me share with you what I’ve learned over the years.
It takes more than SM play skills to reliably create a transcendent scene experience. As experienced Tops know, the scene starts the moment you begin negotiations. From then on, your words and deeds affect the scene’s outcome. Yes, you have to know how to “read” your bottom, but there’s more. We’ll discuss Topspace and subspace, inducing trance states, and some psychological risks associated with ending a scene. Experienced Tops will most clearly understand this class. Newer Tops will be exposed to some of the “secrets” of BDSM Magic.
How much better would your relationship be if the Leader clearly communicated their version of a “perfect life” so you knew what you needed to do? How much better would your relationship be if the follower knew what to follow?
Protocols are an outgrowth of your values. Some “standard responses” are tried-and-true, some you’ll have to create to suit your own relationship. You can create protocols that support your own version of a magical world and you can create protocols that solve challenges. For example, you can create a protocol that addresses “getting back into Master or slave headspace after a long day at work.” Protocols can also be used to help stabilize relationships that are being pulled back to the land of vanillas.
We’ll discuss practical protocols: attendees will have the opportunity to ask for help designing protocols to fit their particular needs. (NOTE: attendees may wish to take notes.)
Our Book Supporting this Presentation: Master/slave Mastery—Protocols: Focusing the intent of your relationship (Red Eight Ball Press, 2016)
For some couples, sex play — even sm sex play — has become ho-hum. Yes, you have a vibrator or two, yes, you have canes and floggers, but… It doesn’t have to be like that.
This demo is techniques heavy. It’s for creative people. We’ll show how to adapt a wide range of toys to build up to orgasm/squirting so both of you will be left with spectacular experiences. This kind of play will absolutely improve your relationship.
We’ll explain female anatomy (“A-spot”, “G-spot”, “U-spot” and cervix) and demonstrate techniques for stimulating them all. We’ll show you how to combine items you already own — such as canes and vibrators or multiple vibrators. We’ll have a number of items along that are likely to be new to you, such as a kitchen sinks (just checking to be sure you’re really reading this).
The workshop/demo uses a live female model. Doors are locked once we’ve begun.
My Book Supporting this Presentation: Squirms, Screams, and Squirts: Handbook for Going from Great Sex into Extraordinary Sex. There is also a workbook that supports the book (2010).