Mollena Williams

Owned by Herr Meister since December 2014, she currently serves as Muse and slave in his heart and home. Mollena is an award-winning, world-travelling, critically acclaimed writer, actress, BDSM Educator, Storyteller. Author of “The Toybag Guide: Taboo Play,” coauthor of “Playing Well With Others: Your Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities” with Lee Harrington. Her perspective on  BDSM are frequently sought after by news sources such as NY Times, Huffington Post, Newsweek, Essence, and Ebony, and is a frequent guest expert on Dan Savage’s “Savage Lovecast”.

Her essays appear in Tristan Taormino’s  “The Ultimate Guide to Kinky Sex.” She’s a featured educator with KinkAcademy.com. Her award-winning experimental short BDSM film “IMPACT.” debuted at Yerba Buena Center for the Arts and has screened in the USA, Canada, Europe and Australia in Cinekink’s 2013.

She is International Ms Leather 2010 and Ms. SF Leather 2009, was honored with the 2012 Jack McGeorge Award for Excellence in Education in  BDSM, and is thrilled to have won the the National Leather Association’s 2011 and 2012 Cynthia Slater Non-Fiction Article Award and shared the 2013 Geoff Mains Non-Fiction book award with Lee for “Playing Well with Others.”

molena

Playing with Strangers: How to Get It On at a Con!

Whether it is your first of fiftieth time at a BDSM event, it can be intimidating to meet folks. People from Internationally known BDSM Educators to first-time neophytes can run into obstacles of self-esteem, fear of rejection, hell, fear of acceptance! How do you cope with your shyness or awkwardness or just figure out a positive approach to that tasty top of succulent submissive?

This fun and interactive workshop will offer some solutions, hints, tips and tricks for all of those who have ever seen that stranger across a crowded dungeon and longed to connect! We’ll have some exercises, some discussion, and the chance for you to explore what your strengths are, and where you could use a little help making your fantasies a reality!

From The Slave’s Mouth: Dominance from the Flipside

Perhaps you are curious about exploring your dominant side? Taking control physically in the bedroom, or perhaps dominating your partner beyond your intimate sexual times in ways that engage broader aspects of your lives? Where do you begin? How do you get ‘em to do your bidding? And that eternal question: if the submissive can always say no, who is in charge, really?

Join long-time practitioner of Kink, BDSM and member of the Leather Community Mollena Williams, who identifies as a selective submissive, feminist, power slave, masochist, educator and Executive Pervert.  Sexually liberated since her first high school relationship where she explored polyamory and openly kinky since 1993, she travels the world speaking to the kinky and the kink-curious on topics ranging from the basics of negotiation to extreme “edge-play.” This class will explore the basics of power exchange relationships, ways to consider your motivations, strengths, places where growth is needed, and negotiating power dynamics successfully. Sure, you can get a peer point of view from other dominant types, but here’s your chance to hear from a slave-identified person who has listened to thousands of other slaves and submissives and can share a unique perspective on dominance and mastery.

  • Self-assessment to help determine your dominant desires.
  • Egalitarian negotiation.
  • Levels of responsibility.
  • Self-care for dominants / tops / masters.
  • Ethical mastery.

While geared towards exploring the dominant perspective in power exchange relationships, this class may also be helpful for submissives and slaves interested in clarifying their own needs, wants and desires while seeking or working within a PE dynamic. Bring your questions, experiences, and curiosity!

Selfcare & Aftercare: Who Needs ‘Em?

The intensity of SM play often results in emotional vulnerability for the top and the bottom. Often, the period of “Aftercare” post-scene is intended to provide closure for all parties involved. Though much discussion and lip service is often paid to the importance of aftercare, how many of us insure our emotional needs will be met after the toys are safely packed away? Who among us makes sure that we negotiate aftercare when planning that hot scene? Who among us has walked away with a “less that fulfilled feeling” after a scene, and later realized out aftercare needs weren’t met? How often is the top or dominant’s need for aftercare overlooked? And for goodness sake, what do you do when there is no chocolate to be found??

In this discussion, we will explore the reasons, physiological, psychological and spiritual, that people often need to have a “cooling down” period post-scene. We will explore suggestions for ways to include aftercare in your negotiations, and what to do if you aren’t getting your needs met. We will also investigate the ramifications of scenes that deliberately eliminate the aftercare aspect, and how you might approach processing the energies released within your play when you are left to your own devices. The physical and emotional facets of post scene processing will be discussed, and participant participation will be actively solicited. Please come share your experiences, and open yourself to learn from the practices of other Leatherfolk.